When we attach who we are to our title and what we do, it leads to an un-constructive sense of self. What happens when you can no longer do what you do? When the job title you had gets taken away?
It's been almost a full year since I've "worked" as a developer/architect/whatever... and I still identify as one. But I've certainly lost the viewpoint that it's what is my identity. I've gone back to what I really wanted to do several years ago: find a way to help small businesses not get screwed over by (tech) companies who will sell them a pig in a poke for thousands / tens of thousands of dollars when they don't need it. Even that, though, doesn't give me identity. Maybe it's really just a desire to help whoever that works out? Good questions to think about :) And glad you're both recovered from Covid!!